I have a friend, she worked for me before heading out to another company, that met this loser who I did not like from the first time he tried to break up with her 2 months after he started seeing her. Well, she is shy to a degree until you get to know her then she opens up. Now she thinks this is the best she can do and how life is going to be, hello news flash many more fish in the sea, you don’t live in an aquarium where there is a certain population.
How did she get herself here you ask, like many of us who think living together is a great thing. She had a great apt with cheap rent, but she lived alone, then some how she met this boob, and he lives with his mother. DING hello, Seinfeld episode here. He and his mother work at the same company, this is getting errie now. Well he would come up to her place she would go down to his place etc. Then the day she was suppose to help me with a party, she is not here and not answering her cell phone either. So I continue on my party planning ways and text her, well finally she texts me back saying this boob is trying to break up with her for no reason just because he is afraid of commitment and it isn’t working out like he thought. Now this had been sight unseen at this point, so I did not know if he was some Adonis, but even then put your hand on your ass and good-bye. I will find someone who will treat me right, it might hurt or sting but damn I am a good catch. Not her, she sits there fighting with him, pleading this will work why are you doing this etc. In my book, NO I do not grovel, I put up a wall instead. So now she is not coming, to help me but will cover me at work. Rule # 1 your friends will Always be your friends, Men come and go. Remember and repeat this to yourself.
I take this with a grain of salt, and move on finally I meet this boob and he is taller, scrawny, with big ears and braces. Have you ever seen Sid from Toy Story yeah he was the person. I meet him at a concert where I gave them the FREE TICKETS, we were to meet up to tailgate. You would think having given them free tickets you would say hello and stick around. Oh no had to go and see some friends that he found in the parking lot, don’t lie to me I know you knew they were coming he just didn’t tell her.
Are we seeing how he plays the game, then she moves in with him and his mother, first of all she moved out of her house to get away from her mother why would you move in with him and his mother. Well, now she doesn’t have enough money, she needs another job, she is an hour away from work instead of 15 min. For what?
Here in lies my dilemma, do I tell her hey smarten the hell up you can do way better than him and his mother. I will help you find a place to live and move your stuff? Or should I listen and let her complain, no one told me this earlier I had to figure it out on my own, but you need to be happy with yourself and your life before you can have a great relationship with someone else.
It pains me to see her unhappy when she could suck it up, move into a good apt, find herself, yes being alone at home isn’t great but I can deal with it for now. I got myself into a routine that I do and am finding out what I really want from my life. She is 10 years younger than me, and has the same opportunities in men but she refuses to put herself out there she has no confidence in herself that I think is where we need to start.
